\u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Klinik Psikolog \u0130nci Nur \u00dclk\u00fc, 4 May\u0131s Uluslararas\u0131 \u015eiddet Ma\u011fduru \u00c7ocuklar G\u00fcn\u00fc kapsam\u0131nda \u015fiddet ve zorbal\u0131\u011fa maruz kalan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n neden \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sessiz kald\u0131klar\u0131 hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulundu.<\/p>\n
Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar sessiz kalarak kendini korumaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u015eiddete maruz kalan baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n yard\u0131m isterken ba\u011f\u0131rmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, kap\u0131y\u0131 \u00e7arpmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, y\u00fcksek sesle itiraz etmedi\u011fini ifade eden\u00a0Klinik Psikolog \u0130nci Nur \u00dclk\u00fc, \u201cDaha sessiz bir yol se\u00e7erler; susmak. O sessizlik, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bir bo\u015fluk de\u011fil, tam aksine, i\u00e7i korku, utan\u00e7 ve \u00e7aresizlikle dolu bir aland\u0131r.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Akran \u015fiddetine maruz kalan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131n kendini savunmamas\u0131 ya da durumu yeti\u015fkinlerle payla\u015fmamas\u0131n\u0131n, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u2018tepkisizlik\u2019 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, asl\u0131nda bir hayatta kalma stratejisi oldu\u011funu aktaran \u00dclk\u00fc, \u201c\u00c7ocuk, tehdit kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda bedensel ve duygusal olarak kilitlenir. Ne s\u00f6yleyece\u011fini bilemez, hareket edemez, sanki sahnenin i\u00e7inde ama kendisi yokmu\u015f gibi hisseder. Bu durum, g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fczl\u00fckten \u00e7ok, beynin kendini koruma bi\u00e7imidir.\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n Sessizlik \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ipu\u00e7lar\u0131yla konu\u015fur!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n neden anlatmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na de\u011finen\u00a0Klinik Psikolog \u0130nci Nur \u00dclk\u00fc, \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi:<\/p>\n \u201cBunun arkas\u0131nda \u00e7o\u011fu zaman g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen ama g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc duygular vard\u0131r. \u2018S\u00f6ylersem daha k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc olur\u2019 korkusu, \u2018ben bir \u015fey yapt\u0131m, hak ettim\u2019 gibi i\u00e7selle\u015ftirilmi\u015f su\u00e7luluk ya da \u2018kimse bana inanmaz\u2019 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi\u2026 Zorban\u0131n ayn\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131fta olmas\u0131, arkada\u015f grubunun da\u011f\u0131laca\u011f\u0131 kayg\u0131s\u0131 ya da daha \u00f6nce yard\u0131m isteyip sonu\u00e7 alamam\u0131\u015f olmak da \u00e7ocu\u011fu sessizli\u011fe iter. B\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocuk, kendini koruman\u0131n yolunu g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez olmakta bulur.<\/p>\n Oysa sessizlik \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ipu\u00e7lar\u0131yla konu\u015fur. Okula gitmek istemeyen, ders ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131 aniden d\u00fc\u015fen, i\u00e7ine kapanan ya da tam tersine \u00f6fke patlamalar\u0131 ya\u015fayan bir \u00e7ocuk bize bir \u015fey anlat\u0131yordur. S\u0131k s\u0131k kar\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 ya da ba\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 ya\u015fayan, e\u015fyalar\u0131n\u0131 kaybeden, arkada\u015flar\u0131ndan uzakla\u015fan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n hik\u00e2yesine dikkatle bakmak gerekir. Bazen de ipu\u00e7lar\u0131 dijital d\u00fcnyadad\u0131r; telefonunu saklayan, mesajlardan ka\u00e7\u0131nan bir \u00e7ocuk, siber zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131n hedefi olabilir.\u201d<\/p>\n \u00c7ocuk yaln\u0131z kalmamal\u0131!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n B\u00f6yle durumlarda tek bir do\u011fru olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na i\u015faret eden\u00a0Klinik Psikolog \u0130nci Nur \u00dclk\u00fc, \u201cHer durumun dinami\u011fi farkl\u0131d\u0131r. Ancak \u00e7ocuklara \u015fu temel yollar \u00f6\u011fretilmeli; g\u00fcvenli de\u011filse ortamdan uzakla\u015fmak, kalabal\u0131\u011fa y\u00f6nelmek, g\u00fcvendi\u011fi bir yeti\u015fkinden yard\u0131m istemek ve s\u0131n\u0131r koyan k\u0131sa c\u00fcmleler kullanmak\u2026 \u2018Bunu istemiyorum\u2019, \u2018dur\u2019, \u2018bana dokunma\u2019 gibi net ifadeler, \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendini ifade etmesini kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. \u00d6zellikle siber zorbal\u0131kta, kan\u0131tlar\u0131 silmeden saklamak da \u00f6nemlidir. En kritik nokta ise \u015fu; \u00e7ocuk yaln\u0131z kalmamal\u0131.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n \u2018Hay\u0131r deme\u2019 ve s\u0131n\u0131r koyma becerisinin, bir g\u00fcnde \u00f6\u011frenilen bir davran\u0131\u015f olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na vurgu yapan \u00dclk\u00fc, \u201cBu beceriler, evde ve okulda tekrar ederek, deneyimleyerek geli\u015fir. \u00c7ocuklara duygular\u0131n\u0131 tan\u0131ma, rahats\u0131zl\u0131k hissettiklerinde bunu fark etme ve ifade etme alan\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131lmal\u0131. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardan itibaren \u2018istemiyorsan hay\u0131r diyebilirsin\u2019 mesaj\u0131n\u0131 duyan bir \u00e7ocuk, zorbal\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda da daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc durabilir. Burada en \u00f6nemli model yine yeti\u015fkinlerdir. Kendi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u015fekilde ifade eden bir ebeveyn, \u00e7ocu\u011funa en etkili dersi verir.\u201d a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 yapt\u0131.<\/p>\n Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fu koruman\u0131n ilk ad\u0131m\u0131, s\u00f6yleyemediklerini fark etmektir!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n yard\u0131m isteyebilmesi i\u00e7in yaln\u0131zca bireysel de\u011fil, toplumsal bir g\u00fcven alan\u0131na ihtiya\u00e7 oldu\u011funa dikkat \u00e7eken\u00a0Klinik Psikolog \u0130nci Nur \u00dclk\u00fc, \u201cOkullar\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131k kap\u0131 politikas\u0131 benimsemesi, zorbal\u0131kla ilgili net ve uygulanabilir kurallar koymas\u0131, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kendilerini ifade edebilece\u011fi g\u00fcvenli alanlar yaratmas\u0131 gerekir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Ailelerin ise yarg\u0131lamadan dinleyen, su\u00e7lamadan anlayan bir tutum benimsemesinin hayati \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen \u00dclk\u00fc, s\u00f6zlerini \u015f\u00f6yle tamamlad\u0131:<\/p>\n \u201c\u2018Sana inan\u0131yorum, bu senin hatan de\u011fil ve birlikte \u00e7\u00f6zebiliriz\u2019 c\u00fcmlesi, bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7ok daha b\u00fcy\u00fck bir yer a\u00e7ar. Medya da bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te \u00f6nemli bir rol \u00fcstlenir; yard\u0131m aramay\u0131 zay\u0131fl\u0131k de\u011fil, cesaret olarak g\u00f6steren bir dil kullanmak gerekir.<\/p>\n Unutmamak gerekir ki, \u015fiddete u\u011frayan bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun sessizli\u011fi bo\u015fluk de\u011fildir. O sessizlik, dikkatle dinlendi\u011finde bize \u00e7ok \u015fey anlat\u0131r. 4 May\u0131s Uluslararas\u0131 \u015eiddet Ma\u011fduru \u00c7ocuklar G\u00fcn\u00fc, yaln\u0131zca bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k g\u00fcn\u00fc de\u011fil; \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n duyulmayan seslerini ger\u00e7ekten duymaya ba\u015flamak i\u00e7in bir hat\u0131rlatmad\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bazen bir \u00e7ocu\u011fu koruman\u0131n ilk ad\u0131m\u0131, onun s\u00f6yleyemediklerini fark edebilmektir.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Kaynak: (BYZHA) Beyaz Haber Ajans\u0131<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Klinik Psikolog \u0130nci Nur \u00dclk\u00fc, 4 May\u0131s Uluslararas\u0131 \u015eiddet Ma\u011fduru \u00c7ocuklar G\u00fcn\u00fc kapsam\u0131nda \u015fiddet ve zorbal\u0131\u011fa maruz kalan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n neden \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sessiz kald\u0131klar\u0131 hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulundu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":14909,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14908","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-saglik"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14908","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=14908"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14908\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14910,"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14908\/revisions\/14910"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/14909"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=14908"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=14908"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/busondakika.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=14908"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}